Allowing the Light

Good Morning,
It came to me as I was coaching an adoptive mother yesterday, that it is impossible to find the light when you are constantly fighting the dark, and it is impossible to find the good when you are constantly fighting the bad and it is impossible to find love when you are constantly fighting the fear.

Her young adopted daughter is a very scared child of horrible abuse and neglect, and is angry, defiant, mean, rageful, refuses to bathe, tantrums, throws food .... her list to me went on and on and on and on....

And mom went on and on and on in vain through the flood of dark, toxic, painful and fear driven manifestations that have presented themselves in the life of this child in response to a pain that neither she nor most of us can really understand.

After about 30 minutes, I asked mom to get very quiet, to rest with me and to lean into her quiet mind/body and spirit and to only stay there for a few moments. She was almost immediately flooded with tears and a deep feeling of empathy as her mind revisited some of the experiences this child has endured. And in doing so, she was able to find empathy, love and understanding for this child in a new way.

From there, we were able to devise a plan for intervening through the dark, but always toward the light; through the fear, but always toward the love.

Remember this truth, what you pay your attention to, will come back to you.

What are you paying attention to in your loved ones today?

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For today,
Peace,
Juli

Change

I had convinced myself that coming back from a week away of soul searching, heart searching and thought releasing work, I would struggle to come back home, to work, to life. But the true answer is that all of that time and work prepared me to do just that, come home, full of joy. Joy for what I have, what I am, who I am with, and joy for every struggle that offers yet another opportunity for growth in tolerance, patience, love and kindness.

Let me share this truth yet again, for all of us;
Life is Messy. Our job is to create joy and peace.

I know, without a doubt, that I can not provide peace in this world if I do not have a quiet mind.

Loving what is, right now, right here.
Peace,
Juli
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The Quiet Storm

Spirituality, religion, is there a GOD above watching over all of this?

Questions I receive all the time. What do I believe?

I have been involved in a quiet storm for years now, always just under the surface, about to bubble over like that the pot of water on the stove just at the rim....

How could a GOD allow this to happen to children of His? How is there so much suffering if God is good?

I wonder when and how we came to this unshakable truth that if life does not unfold as we would have it, if life does not give to me, offer to me, provide for me all that I think life should; if this life hurts, if this life is riddled with child abuse, neglect, abandonment and even child murder than this is not the life I want and there must not be a God. Where is the instrument of all that SHOULD be good? Who or what is orchestrating all of this anyway?

We fight to shake off the pain of this life so ardently that the fight in and of itself brings us right back to another fight....leading to mere daily existence, not allowing for the opportunity to REALLY LIVE this life in the first place!

When we hide from the problems we do not want, the broken relationship that we refuse to talk about, the child whose pain is so deep that the can not ever take it away, the family so broken that we begin to break along with them, the bills we can not pay....when we hide from these problems we are only pretending that these problems are not part of us. They are a part of us, they are a part of life, they are opportunities for us to grow in understanding, in love and in faith of things unseen, not of things seen. We bury these parts of us, as if they will go away....they will not. They will kill you if you do not uncover them, work to heal them and learn always that the greatest healing may just well come from great suffering not ignored.

There is a much higher, richer spirituality that supersedes many of the religious groups of which I have studied. That is risky to say, I know. Their is an almighty presence and power, the divine, the God and creator of all, who asks only that we live life, that we not run from life, that we get out of this false sense that we have created that allows us to believe that life should only be good and pain free. Where did that belief come from anyway?

Life is messy, life will offer you pain. Your job is to create healing, create sanctuary, to love those most difficult for you to love, to accept the position of those who you most disagree with as theirs and yet know that they are still worthy, to know that all of Gods creatures are here for a purpose and reason and that maybe, just maybe the reason for your pain and suffering today, is a greater tomorrow. It is your responsibility to make something of your life. You have been given free will in order to do just that.

Today, blame nobody for who you are and where you are, today blame nobody and blame no thing for your position in life. Today, live your life, find joy, appreciate what is being offered in this moment. Today, find your spirit, alive with life, love, happiness, joy, and peace and share your spirit with all you come into contact with today. We can all rest in His mercy, if we will!

Spirituality is voluntary-Won't you volunteer and join the Quiet Storm today?

Peace,
Juli
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It's Not What Happens to you in LIfe..

It is what you do about it!
How often do we hear that said and then proceed to complain about that which life gives to us?


We ask for LIFE, and life appears, and then life gets in the way;
the kids need something,
it rains,
it is unfair;
your partner grows older and greyer, and heavier and wrinklier;
we say yes when we should say no and then feel guilty for having said yes!;
we plan for quiet mornings preparing for our busy day and get awakened by a sick child;
we recieve painful or scary news about our health or the health of a loved one;
we lose a job;
we lose a friend;
we lose a loved one

And we complain that life is not as life should be. And the complaining begets more dark, negative and toxic emotional energy that we complain about!

Are you following me?

You do have a choice. You can choose to quit fighting life, and instead allow life to unfold just as life will unfold and in doing so accept that every thing that happens to you really does happen for a reason.

You can allow every experience to become an opportunity to grow in patience, in understanding, in tolerance with self and others, in love instead of in fear.

And is it not more patience, understanding, tolerance and love that we are all looking for more of anyway?

Today, Make This a Great Day!
Peace,
Juli

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