Finding Peace: Through Confirmation or Revelation?

So many of us continue to struggle to find peace. You know why?

The human mind is dysfunctional. It has not caught up yet, to the knowledge that what we may have had to fight yesterday, or yesteryear, no longer requires that we fight! Your brain literally believes that you are at war; you can hear it in your thoughts, the endless chatter in your mind, the inability to find tranquility in your body, the incessant belief that you must always work for more and more, faster and faster in order to achieve success. The hopelessness that some of you feel about life, in this very moment that you are reading. Many of you wonder if peace is even a real possibility at all. Some of you will not even take 2 minutes to finish reading this.

You are not alone. I understand so well. I have been there, and at times, slide back. I pray you will read on for some enlightenment.

Everyday, every hour, it seems as if it could all just come undone; one person says or does one thing and all of a sudden we are in a rage, an all out war fighting for confirmation that what was just said or done CONFIRMS how right we are and how wrong they are!! That they are wrong and we are right and we will even fight harder to prove to you that we are right, which means you are wrong!

And by the way, we have the right to feel as angry and disgusted as we feel!

Some examples:
"I knew you would say that!; See, you always come home mad about something or another; I told you that would happen; why do you always act that way; can't you do just one thing to prove to me that I am worth working for-changing for?; do you even hear me, can you even see me, do you even know that I am here???"

Sound familiar? I know it does for me, some days...and for some of my clients who continue to struggle to find that true, lasting peace is not about what is happening outside, but that which we feel inside.

As a matter of FACT, it is not at all about what happens, it is all about our perception of what happens. And our perception of what happens in this moment is clouded by past experiences that are similar to this moment!

You see, in the experience of each moment of life, we tend to look for confirmation that what this moment brings is just proof that I am right; right that my life is horrible; right that you don't love me; right that I will never feel peace; right that these kids are bad and will never change; right that no model of working with challenging clients really works; right that life will never really change and this is really, all there is.

We look to others to validate that we are right! To feel bad for us, to plllleeeaaaassseee stick by me even when I am so miserable, and even to justify my right to feel horrible by passively ignoring my own inability to see that it is only I that makes ME feel horrible!!

We have not yet experienced the amazing and beneficial effects of inner body awareness, learning to find internal peace through breathing, walking, stopping the insanity around us by moving inward, the sense of freedom that comes in letting go of identifying with your self of the past, and new found inner, deep peace that comes with relinquishing all of the mental, emotional and psychological resistance to what may be revealed to us, in this present moment if only we could let go of needing to be confirmed that we were right in the first place.

Living through REVELATION is an agreement we make with life to simply allow whatever this present moment brings to reveal to me, something about me that helps me be a better me! And in doing so I constantly feel better about me. It is not about confirming that which I think I already know!

If you live life having confirmed to you over and over and over what you already know and believe to be true, you may as well die, for you have stopped any growth and stagnate in the state of who you are, not anywhere close to who you could become.

How often does life bump into you and you react in anger, you don't like what just happened, what that person just said or what color that light just turned?

Living through REVELATION allows you to accept all that happens in this present moment, just in this moment, not through your past, and to learn from every moment that you live. To risk relationship in this moment, even if past relationships hurt; to risk hugging your children even if hugs in the past may not have been healing; to speak gently and quietly even if your past is riddled with yelling and screaming; to love another intimately and emotionally even if you are not sure what that means!

There is an urgent need today, for a change and I mean a radical change in human consciousness if we are to survive as a race and on this planet. As Guy Finley (guyfinley.com) says so well, change does not happen tomorrow, it happens now, or it doesn't happen. Do you want to change? Change. Now.

Those who would swat this message away are most likely stuck in the dysfunctional thoughts that their dysfunctional brain creates because it is all they know. They look for confirmation that they are right and I am wrong, and in doing so remain just as they are. Unhappy.

You never know, there may be something to this revelation.....try it-and let me know.
And if you need more on this subject, post a comment and let's get some good, real conversation going that may prove revealing to all of us~

in the meantime,
Peace,
Juli
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